become worry and stress free
become worry and stress free
The release effect consists of five gentle sessions that will help you let go of unwanted fear, hurt and of course the symptoms that stem from these negative feelings.
The Release Effect is best summed up as a gentle, guided meditation, that helps you let go of all the unwanted, negative feeling triggers that cause you to self sabotage and thus stop you from reaching your full potential. The Release Effect works in five relaxing sessions. This is usually enough, although some clients can want to have a top-up session down the track, it’s best to wait at least three to six months before having another session, as you might only be experiencing the old symptoms that will eventually drop away.
The release effect can help to release your feelings of: helplessness, hurt, anxiety, loneliness, fear of failure, abandonment, guilt, unworthiness, sadness, insecurity, jealousy, hopelessness, fear of fear and blocked etc. The symptoms from these feelings – i.e. anger and procrastination – will eventually drop away as well. Feelings of lost, poverty, lack and held back have also been successfully treated. If you can be aware that you feel it, you can heal it.
If someone does something and your feeling of hurt triggers, you might get angry back at them to try and stop them from doing the thing that triggers you, so the anger would be the symptom and the feeling of hurt the cause (instead of getting angry, others might retreat into themselves).
If the feeling of hurt stops, you will not need to react angrily from it. You will not need to avoid people and situations that you trigger from either. You might choose to avoid them, but you won’t need to avoid them anymore. Although the habit of your reaction might be there for awhile, it will also start diminishing over time.
Symptoms can also be psycho-somatic (mind-body). For example, when the fight or flight reaction triggers, we might have increased heart beat, respiration and adrenaline pumping. For the body to get the energy to do this, it needs to under-stimulate other systems to take the energy to where you need it in an emergency. It might under-stimulate the digestive, reproductive and immune systems.
This can lead to all sorts of problems like, hormonal/chemical imbalances, lowering of nutrient assimilation and reduced cell repair via the immune system.
A plethora of other symptoms can appear as well, including psychological, behavioral, physiological and spiritual, for example, a feeling of separation instead of connectedness.
in the illustration above, you’ll notice that the eyeballs (neutral receptors) pick up the snake, signaling directly to the thalamus (relayer), which then sends the signal simultaneously to the amygdala (fear brain) and the cortex (rational).
a spilt second after the amygdala receives the information from the thalamus, it wastes no time in sending a danger response to the hypothalamus (body regulator), which then triggers the pituitary (chemical reaction centre) to send the body into fight or flight mode.
the body’s responses are then fed back to the thalamus/cortex/amygdala and so we end up with a domino effect, reticulating nervous system, (loop).
notice the green signal from the amygdala to the brain stem, (by-passing the cortex, directly to the hypothalamus).
if instead of a real snake, the eyes detected a stick that only resembled a snake, the amygdala would still send your heart racing, and there in lies the problem, because the amygdala can’t discern between what is a threat and what might be a threat. it takes no chances. whereas the cortex might spend an extra fraction of a second to decide if the threat is real, but the amygdala has already set the reticulating effect into play.
so the trade off is between a split second quicker reaction, at the expense of what might be the most appropriate action to take.
for example, your amygdala might hold a belief that being alone is a life threatening situation, maybe a carry over from being left alone too long as a baby, so that in a situation where your partner wanted to go out with a group of friends without you, the amygdala could pick up a message that you will be alone, and would then believe this is going to be a significant danger, because that’s what the earlier experience of being alone felt like.
this could lead to all sorts of problems in that relationship, including jealousy and retaliation. this could be the start of a self-fulfilling prophecy where the partner gets tired of not being trusted and actually leaves the relationship.
to the person feeling the pain of jealousy and abandonment, it’s very hard to believe that there is no real danger.
so how do you break the cycle? first of all it’s important to know that the amygdala operates on the automatic sub-conscious level of the spectrum of consciousness.* so that is where the fear needs to be treated, not on the conscious level. It is a feeling problem, not a thought problem.
the way to treat this level of your consciousness is by using the right tools, if you want to solve a conscious rational problem, you would use rationale or logic, but with the amygdala, it requires the very gentle, non-threatening approach of a guided meditation.
no prior knowledge or experience of meditation is needed, as you will be guided through the process by the facilitator.
there is no need to know what situations created the feelings in the first place, because that would be a rational way of understanding it, whereas the only real knowledge needed is the identification of the feeling itself.
using The Release Effect approach, it’s very easy to identify the feelings, whereas using logical/rational methods you might never identify them.
once the feelings are identified - in three gentle and relaxing Release Effect sessions - you can let them go or release them from your sub-conscious. the best thing is that “it works”.
A feeling is not an emotion, a feeling is what can't be seen. Here are a few of the most common feelings that bring people to the release effect.
not good enough / abandonment / jealousy / envy / helplessness / loneliness / trapped / panic / rejection / lost / hopeless / failure / poverty / etc.
freedom / inner peace / calm / capable / self acceptance / secure / trusting / connected / plenty / confident / successful / direction / etc.
My grandfather holding my hand and
telling me the names of flowers 4yo
the lady next door tied a small bag of candy to our front gate, with a
little note, wishing me good luck on my first day of school- 5yo
enjoying climbing trees in pakistan - 7yo
going to the park and speaking with the beggars - 4yo
when i learnt to write my name - 4yo
listening to classical music and looking at a painting with my
father while he told us a story - 5yo
my grandmother showing me how to sew - 5yo
my grandmother called me “little sunshine” - 3yo
girls in our new town wanted to play with me - 4yo
the smell of tomato sauce from a local house - 5yo
just sitting in a tunnel eating dirt with my first boyfriend - 5yo
riding on the back of an alsatian, like a horse - 3yo
climbing and feeling connected to a peach tree - 3yo
helping my father on the milk round, by collecting the money and
him saying “you good little girl” - 3yo
grandfather giving me a ride in a wheel barrow - 5yo
on my parents porch, feeling connected to god - 5yo
here is a myth in western society that women feel more then men.
let me bust this myth wide open.
if i were to hide the names of the people who come to see me, so that you didn’t know if the list of feelings belong to a man or a woman, you would be very hard pressed to be able to decide which gender those feelings belonged to.
it is a grave mistake too believe that men don’t feel hurt, jealousy, fear of rejection, not good enough, fear of poverty etc, etc.
the difference between men and women is not what they feel, but the manner in which each hide there feelings with emotions.
it’s acceptable for women to express their emotions in certain ways that are not acceptable for a man (in general), and vice versa.
if a woman cries to hide her real feelings, she will be comforted, whereas with a man who cries, more often than not he will be scorned. i’m sure the historical roots of this phenomena will most probably lead back to a survival need.
expression of feelings is much more rare than the expression of emotion.
After experimenting with many forms of subconscious healing, both as a client and then as a student and eventually therapist, over a twenty five years period, Ray Lewis was able, through experimenting with himself, colleagues and friends, to create The Release Effect (TRE).
Dr Joseph LeDoux's ground-breaking book „The Emotional Brain“ was the pivotal point in heading Lewis in the right direction, without LeDoux's work in understanding the neural problems of our brain, Lewis would not have had the inkling that eventually lead to the discovery of TRE.
Over many years of suffering, from severe anxiety and depression, Ray Lewis tried a score of different therapies and was a voracious reader of psychology, eastern philosophy and self help books. Informal studying was forced upon him by his inability, too many times, to get out of bed to attend formal courses because of his depression, he says this was a blessing in disguise, as it allowed him to search in areas that were, back then, not acceptable in orthodox universities.
Although, Ray Lewis points out that many university trained scientists and researchers these days, are widening their scope to include the emotional brain as well as the cognitive, in particular: Dr Antonio Damassio "The Feeling of What Happens", Norman Doidge „The Brain That Changes Itself“, Daniel Goleman "Emotional Intelligence", Rita Carter „Mapping The Mind“ and of course the person who put the amygdala - as the fear center of the brain - on the map, one of the greatest discoveries in history, Dr Joseph LeDoux „The Emotional Brain“.